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Monday, November 10, 2008
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Torrie Nicholas
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8:43 AM
I'm sure this is not an update anyone is expecting and I wasn't sure I wanted to post it but this is what I was thinking about today and wanted to get your input.
Is there such a thing as a "Best Friend" or "Best Friends" anymore?? Just a question.
Do we use that term as adults or is it to juvenile?
Do we just have "Really Good Friends" "Good Friends" and "Friends"?
If we don't have Best Friends anymore and have "Really Good Friends"
"Good Friends" and "Friends" what is your definition of each?
I've had discussions over this topic and wanted some more input from the world out there.
Plus I'm feeling very isolated and friendless right now so this may have sparked the topic. ;)
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Oh girl you are just feeling blue cause you left a bunch of great friends behind in cali. you will find new friends where you are now. Beside you know I always have your back. Its just harder when you live so far away. I hope you know that I love ya girl Love ya Heidi
hey Torrie, I think we all go through times when we feel pretty lonely... that is one of the things I really enjoy about blogging, is feeling connected to people I care about and even if I don't get the chance to "talk" to a friend or another adult all day blogging helps me not feel isolated or alone!! We all miss you and your family! and hey any news with you house??
i'm glad to hear from you on your blog.
well that's an interesting topic. it seems to me that "best friends" catagory sort of does have a juvenile feel to it, but sometimes I still feel like i've got one or that I want one. to me a:
really good friends: someone I can call on a whim and talk to about nothing (similar to a "best friend") & when we hang out we know eachother very well so it's so comfortable
good friends: I can do things with and feel comfortable and have fun but it's not quite as easy as your "really good friends".
friends: I know better than aquantances(sp) but we don't really hang out or do anything more than normal.
this topic sort of sparks one for me because we've moved around almost every two years (and it might happen again soon, ssshhh, ::smile::) and it has possibly prevented me from having any "really good friends" that are local to me, so it totally bumbs me out. I could use a really good friends to hang out with during the day several times a month.
good topic, you really got me wanting a close friend here.
I'm glad for an update on you, and I am going to call you as soon as I get done with this comment. I miss you...but you are in real trouble with me for moving. They called me to Den Mother! I'm actually really excited, but a little nervous!
Heidi summed it up just perfect. The friends I don't like are the ones who pretend they are your friends cause they know they can get stuff out of you and then when you need them they are nowhere around. It's funny how many "friends" I lost when I quit doing hair. :o) Now I realize they never really were my friends. I still have those feelings of wanting to be accepted and liked, I want to be everyone's best friend. Jared always reminds me that "he" is supposed to be my one true Best friend. He is right. The only person in this world I can say and do anything too and he will still love me.
I miss you and I am thankful for our friendship. You are a great person and will make plenty of friends. Oh and I do need your email address. I have a few of them and they are all wrong I am sure. Talk to you soon! SMILE because I love ya!
My mom always told me that friends come and go but family is forever. My best friend is my husband and nettie. All the others are my friends. The hardest thing about moving away is that once you don't live in the same place, your kids don't do the same things and i find we don't have that much in common anymore. You are so lucky that you have some wonderful friends that have been with you forever. I don't. You can call anytime to just tald or whatever;) I often feel the same way. love Nan
Hey Torrie,
Here is what I think. I think you have friends that are acquaintances and you have True Friends. A friend is someone you say hi to and hang out with because you have similar hobbies or interests. A true friend is someone who is always in your heart and you are always thinking about, but never quite get them called or get to do something with all the time.(especially when she lives hundreds of miles away) When you finally see them or talk to them, you pick up where you left off and the feelings are still the same. You can laugh with cry with in the same sentence. She knows your biggest secrets and you know hers. You know I LYLAS and I always will. I am glad you are a little closer now. We can make an overnighter to see you sometime. Hope you are adjusting in good old Lander. Love ya and I will talk to you soon.
Hey Lady--it is the hardest thing to move. I have always been the one to move but recently one of my close friends moved away from me. My life is still the same day after day and hers is an adventure.
I consider a true friend when you do see them you can connect on the same level that you did when you were together.
Every person that comes into your life is now connected to you in some way or another. The experiences that you had with them make up who you are. Daniel and I still say to this day that we have never found friends like you and Sheridan were to us. I hope you know that we cherished the time we had with you guys and you helped us make up who we are. Even though we are so far away and I never call I consider you such a dear friend because of the connection we shared.
You guys are AWESOME friends. I wish I could be a better one.
i for one usually only have friends that last till i leave. sad, huh?? i'm terrible at keeping in touch with my friends when i move away. i think that the only best friend i've kept through all of my moving is dannielle martin from high school and we only talk every few months. it's always been hard for me to make and keep friends.
i think the whole best friends is what we say in high school, because i always say that people are my good friends. i think my best friend (sometimes) is bleu.
i feel lonely A LOT too because i don't make friends well. i don't really have a friend to call when i need someone to talk to or someone to just hang out with on the weekends that bleu is gone. plus i don't go home as often as i used to, and i feel like nobody cares what's going on all the way down in Salt Lake. i try to make friends but i'm just passive. i should work on that.
Now you have me thinking! I have several "good" friends, and only a very few that I talk to on a pretty regular basis. I hardly get to hang out with anyone, and rarely talk on the phone or get on the computer to email/blog. Do I have friends at all?? Hmm..
Well anyhow, I consider you a great friend and miss you terribly. I even miss your honesty when asking how my hair looks!!!! =)
Talk to you soon, I wish I could stay in touch better =(
~Camille
I know I am "just the mother", but I think you can have a best friend. More than one.I feel a best friend is one who you can call about anything and they will not judge or make something of it that it is not. Just a sounding board. You don't have to see them on a regular basis but you know they would be there if you needed them. Life has become a very busy thing and we don't assocciate with our loved ones like we should, not because we don't want to but we are so invlolved with jobs, and church, and children. Not an excuse, just a fact. From my talking with you, you are a very loving and dedicated friend. You are also a long ways from them and under some strained circumstamces. Know that you are a special lady and loved by many. Don't be afraid to call someone even if it's their turn to call you. Maybe there is something in their life at this time that you could help them with. Remember, this too shall pass. You have many friends and alot of people cant say that. I know I'm "Just the mother" but I love you dearly. Mothers need friends too!!!!
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